Unable to relax

[Seyiji]

No one has told him to jerk his gherkin yet?

For shame rage

[Silent-Runner]

Originally Posted by Seyiji

No one has told him to jerk his gherkin yet?

For shame rage

maybe you could lend him a hand, sweety

[Seyiji]

Originally Posted by Silent-Runner

maybe you could lend him a hand, sweety

🥒

[Capt. Picard]

Originally Posted by nutcrackr

that's called insomnia. some possible remedies

warm milk before bed
go for a walk before bed
meditation
ASMR videos
weighted blanket
white noise and/or fan
no screen 30mins before bed
don't use bed for anything other than sleeping
play battlefield 2042 because it will bore you to sleep

You should have made your lines rhyme.

[Capt. Picard]

Originally Posted by Seyiji

No one has told him to jerk his gherkin yet?

For shame rage

That's because it doesn't work. Ask me I know.

[KAC]

Thanks for the advice. I did manage to sleep last night and I have one call left for the day. I will be getting some rest today hopefully.

Thanks also to those who wished me well.

[acroig]

Originally Posted by Seyiji

No one has told him to jerk his gherkin yet?

For shame rage

Originally Posted by Silent-Runner

maybe you could lend him a hand, sweety

Originally Posted by Seyiji

🥒

[acroig]

Originally Posted by KAC

Thanks for the advice. I did manage to sleep last night and I have one call left for the day. I will be getting some rest today hopefully.

Thanks also to those who wished me well.

We all wish you well, get some rest.

[Evileh]

You know half of what we discuss here is inside jokes from discord lolol

[KAC]

Binged 7 episodes of Ozark. 2:19 AM. So much for rest.

[ThirdEye]

Work out. Make a routine of it.

[kytprice]

Vigorous sex! Better than jerking off!

[KAC]

Again not sleeping well. This whole job thing is pissing me off. Why are people so inefficient.

[SD-[Inc]]

No one believes when I recommend meditation. It’s the only thing that works for me. The whole point is to calm an overactive mind. The problem with is that is damn hard to do. It takes practice and patience. Most people give up because it is so hard. When you first start, it can take 40 minutes of failure to get to a point of finally able to rest. The more you do it, the faster you can get to a restful state. One tip is take a short walk or find some way to unplug from any stimulus for at least 30 minutes before you start.

[andino]

Stress can manifest itself in many different forms. Insomnia is one of those. There are a lot of things that you can do to decrease stress.

[KAC]

I don’t know if it is stress. I just can’t turn off my mind. It is really exhausting. I keep thinking.

[SD-[Inc]]

Originally Posted by KAC

I don’t know if it is stress. I just can’t turn off my mind. It is really exhausting. I keep thinking.

Most everyone goes through phases in life where this becomes worse or better. There are meds that can help. There are lifestyle changes that can help. There are diet changes that can help. There are behavior changes that can help. It's also a problem that can just spiral downhill if you don't change something.

Here is some of my advice:

My job requires me to coordinate with hundreds of people, so I usually end every day with a bag of problems. You need to learn to disconnect work problems by establishing boundaries on when you actually work. If you never disconnect, you never can start to rest.

If it is personal problems that send your mind into overdrive, try some of the mindfulness exercises to parse the thoughts and put some of them away. The only way to rest is to settle these issues in your mind.

If it is dumb stuff that just gets stuck in your mind, learn to meditate in order to rest. Meditation is all about training your mind to move away from the stressful thinking and have your mind focus on something more calming. It's really hard to do, but worth it.

[KAC]

It’s mostly work. I keep thinking about it all the time. I don’t know why though.

I have reduced carb intake. I am also trying to not eat a lot. But I am in very long meetings all day and then I am still thinking about work.

Plus this job thing is killing me now. I will need to go through an interview process that is extremely competitive. So I have to prepare for it and my mind is in preparation mode all the time. Thinking about what I will say, what data I need to prepare, how to organize my thoughts. This is while in my bed at 3 AM. It is stupid but I can’t turn it off.

Now I have a raging headache and will try once more to sleep before I go to work again.

[Silent-Runner]

if you keep on living like that you'll be a mental wreck in no time, but you already know that, right? No amount of money can be worth that. But hey, it's your choice.

Best of luck.

[SD-[Inc]]

Originally Posted by KAC

It’s mostly work. I keep thinking about it all the time. I don’t know why though.

I have reduced carb intake. I am also trying to not eat a lot. But I am in very long meetings all day and then I am still thinking about work.

Plus this job thing is killing me now. I will need to go through an interview process that is extremely competitive. So I have to prepare for it and my mind is in preparation mode all the time. Thinking about what I will say, what data I need to prepare, how to organize my thoughts. This is while in my bed at 3 AM. It is stupid but I can’t turn it off.

Now I have a raging headache and will try once more to sleep before I go to work again.

Accept who you are. Stressing out will make things worse not better. Be authentic instead. Being authentic doesn’t require tons of stress. Just do it instead of thinking so much about it. When you feel you are ready, stop. Go in with the confidence you did your best and be done with it. If it is not good enough for this interview, it’s not the right place for you.

Most of this stress probably comes from self doubt. Self esteem is something you decide on your own to build. You have to make a conscious choice to grow your own self esteem. Stress and doubt just destroys it. Focus on building instead of destroying it.

I have no professional experience as a therapist. But a really good one did help me when I was younger. So instead of listening to us Ragers, find a professional that can help. They will be much better at this stuff than we are.

[andino]

Originally Posted by KAC

I don’t know if it is stress. I just can’t turn off my mind. It is really exhausting. I keep thinking.

Originally Posted by KAC

It’s mostly work. I keep thinking about it all the time. I don’t know why though.

Bruh, that is stress.

[Munkus]

I highly recommend this book:

[huskylord]

I think your answer can be found here:

[KAC]

Anyways, been ok sleeping as I now recite Quran before falling asleep. Knocks me out very fast. Takes maybe 15 mins.

On a positive news, I am moving forward in the interview process. I should be interviewing with the hiring manager in a couple of weeks. Post that she will either move me forward or show me the finger. Let’s see.

[Silent-Runner]

if everything else fails, you still can get into the music business, just join them:

[SD-[Inc]]

Originally Posted by KAC

Anyways, been ok sleeping as I now recite Quran before falling asleep. Knocks me out very fast. Takes maybe 15 mins.

On a positive news, I am moving forward in the interview process. I should be interviewing with the hiring manager in a couple of weeks. Post that she will either move me forward or show me the finger. Let’s see.

Perfect! Anything that calms your mind. I have this hike I love that I routinely walk. I know the trail really well. If my brain gets too active with a bunch of stuff and I can’t sleep, I virtually walk the entire trail by memory in my head. Works every time. Usually just barely get started on the hike and I fall asleep. Never got close to finishing the trail ever.

[KAC]

Small update. My interview with the hiring manager went very well and I have 3 interviews this week (2 today).

I really don’t know what I want. In my current job, my responsibility increased 3 fold and has a potential path to SF in 2 years. My boss tells me that I am on the leadership radar and the ELT member also knows me from before.

In the role I am applying for I will have responsibility of a $2 b+ P&L but will be locked in the Middle East and Africa region for at least a while. It also means that I will need to restart my credibility building which I have done over past 18 months.

Both paths are great. One that gives me more global role and other that gives me P&L responsibility. Confused af right now on what to do. But battle is not over. Still got to get the offer before I decide.

Let’s see.

P.S. also got my comp letter today which I am pretty happy with. Fat bonus and stocks makes fat KAC.

[JZL]

US Navy Method for Sleep in Two Minutes.

Oh, and did you hear the one about the insomniac agnostic dyslexic who lie awake nights pondering the existence of dog?

[Java Cool Dude]

Originally Posted by KAC

Small update. My interview with the hiring manager went very well and I have 3 interviews this week (2 today).

I really don’t know what I want. In my current job, my responsibility increased 3 fold and has a potential path to SF in 2 years. My boss tells me that I am on the leadership radar and the ELT member also knows me from before.

In the role I am applying for I will have responsibility of a $2 b+ P&L but will be locked in the Middle East and Africa region for at least a while. It also means that I will need to restart my credibility building which I have done over past 18 months.

Both paths are great. One that gives me more global role and other that gives me P&L responsibility. Confused af right now on what to do. But battle is not over. Still got to get the offer before I decide.

Let’s see.

P.S. also got my comp letter today which I am pretty happy with. Fat bonus and stocks makes fat KAC.

Pray Istikhara multiple times and hopefully you'll have a sign from The Divine.

[KAC]

Yup been doing that. Thanks .