Get a gift for a wedding shower and wedding?...

slick · Jul 29, 2009, 08:46 PM

My friend is getting married. He is throwing a couples wedding shower, informal event for both the bride and grooms friends and relatives. The invitation made mention to "shower" them with gifts.

So Do I have to take a gift from the registry to the shower and then to the wedding also? Or just the shower? Or a gift to the shower and then a card and cash to the wedding?

I'm so damn confused, as are other friends.

Can anyone else shed some light on this?

Butterfly · Jul 29, 2009, 08:57 PM

If it is for a couples shower you should pick something from the registry and bring it to the shower. As for the wedding you are not expected to bring a present or hand over cash unless you want to. Now if it was for a "bridal shower only" then a gift for the shower AND a present for the wedding. Hope that makes sense.

slick · Jul 29, 2009, 09:00 PM

Yes that makes sense. Its a couples shower, and it seemed pretty clear that we should bring a gift to it. All my friends agreed.
I thought that there was no reason to bring anything to the wedding, because they probably don't want to deal with the gifts at the wedding. I mean, 400-500 people are supposedly attending, thats a lot of gifts to haul back home.

Maybe take an card with some cash just in case? If I notice other people giving something, that I know gave a gift during the shower, I can pull out my cash so I don't look pathetic.

Good idea?

Butterfly · Jul 29, 2009, 09:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by slick

Maybe take an card with some cash just in case? If I notice other people giving something, that I know gave a gift during the shower, I can pull out my cash so I don't look pathetic.

Good idea?

If that is what you wish to do yes,

.

bete · Jul 29, 2009, 10:13 PM

Slide them a few C notes with a card. Setting up house costs. Money is of more use than a waffle iron.

slick · Jul 30, 2009, 12:11 AM

I know I would rather have money than a waffle iron or what not, but then I see a registry, and I think "They must want this stuff otherwise why did they bother to 'shop' for it and add it to the registry?".

I think I will give money also, it looks like he is going to spend a lot on this wedding and I am going for "free" as it is.

Thanks for the help!

phial · Jul 30, 2009, 12:59 AM

lol, nice setup. "Give us gifts!!" . Then again most traditions seem silly to me.

Sorry, back on topic.

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slick Rage3D Veteran Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1,424	Get a gift for a wedding shower and wedding?... My friend is getting married. He is throwing a couples wedding shower, informal event for both the bride and grooms friends and relatives. The invitation made mention to "shower" them with gifts. So Do I have to take a gift from the registry to the shower and then to the wedding also? Or just the shower? Or a gift to the shower and then a card and cash to the wedding? I'm so damn confused, as are other friends. Can anyone else shed some light on this? __________________ PC: C2Q Q6600 2.4GHz, Abit IP35 Pro, 4GB DDR2 800MHz, WD 300GB Velociraptor, 4x2TB WD SATA, LiteOn 20x DL DVD SATA, XFX 768MB 8800GTX, Lian-Li Black Aluminum Case, Antec NeoHE 500w PSU, Logitech MX1000, Razer Tarantula KB, Klipsch ProMedia Ultra 2.0 Speakers, Dell 2407FWP LCD HT Setup: Samsung 46" LN-T4661F 1080p LCD, Paradigm Signature S2, Paradigm UltraCube 10" Sub, Denon AVR-3808CI, Toshiba HD-A2 HD DVD Player, XBOX 360, PS3 120GB aka BD Player, Wii, Harmony One Remote, WD TV Live

Jul 29, 2009, 08:57 PM	#2
Butterfly Princess Looney Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Warr Acres, Oklahoma Posts: 1,336	If it is for a couples shower you should pick something from the registry and bring it to the shower. As for the wedding you are not expected to bring a present or hand over cash unless you want to. Now if it was for a "bridal shower only" then a gift for the shower AND a present for the wedding. Hope that makes sense. __________________ Look at us through the lens of a camera, does it remove all of our pain?

Jul 29, 2009, 09:00 PM	#3
slick Rage3D Veteran Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1,424	Yes that makes sense. Its a couples shower, and it seemed pretty clear that we should bring a gift to it. All my friends agreed. I thought that there was no reason to bring anything to the wedding, because they probably don't want to deal with the gifts at the wedding. I mean, 400-500 people are supposedly attending, thats a lot of gifts to haul back home. Maybe take an card with some cash just in case? If I notice other people giving something, that I know gave a gift during the shower, I can pull out my cash so I don't look pathetic. Good idea? __________________ PC: C2Q Q6600 2.4GHz, Abit IP35 Pro, 4GB DDR2 800MHz, WD 300GB Velociraptor, 4x2TB WD SATA, LiteOn 20x DL DVD SATA, XFX 768MB 8800GTX, Lian-Li Black Aluminum Case, Antec NeoHE 500w PSU, Logitech MX1000, Razer Tarantula KB, Klipsch ProMedia Ultra 2.0 Speakers, Dell 2407FWP LCD HT Setup: Samsung 46" LN-T4661F 1080p LCD, Paradigm Signature S2, Paradigm UltraCube 10" Sub, Denon AVR-3808CI, Toshiba HD-A2 HD DVD Player, XBOX 360, PS3 120GB aka BD Player, Wii, Harmony One Remote, WD TV Live

Jul 29, 2009, 10:13 PM	#5
bete Huh? Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 6,887	Slide them a few C notes with a card. Setting up house costs. Money is of more use than a waffle iron. __________________ "If we knew what it was we were doing, it would not be called research, would it?" (Albert Einstein)

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Jul 30, 2009, 12:11 AM	#6
slick Rage3D Veteran Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1,424	I know I would rather have money than a waffle iron or what not, but then I see a registry, and I think "They must want this stuff otherwise why did they bother to 'shop' for it and add it to the registry?". I think I will give money also, it looks like he is going to spend a lot on this wedding and I am going for "free" as it is. Thanks for the help! __________________ PC: C2Q Q6600 2.4GHz, Abit IP35 Pro, 4GB DDR2 800MHz, WD 300GB Velociraptor, 4x2TB WD SATA, LiteOn 20x DL DVD SATA, XFX 768MB 8800GTX, Lian-Li Black Aluminum Case, Antec NeoHE 500w PSU, Logitech MX1000, Razer Tarantula KB, Klipsch ProMedia Ultra 2.0 Speakers, Dell 2407FWP LCD HT Setup: Samsung 46" LN-T4661F 1080p LCD, Paradigm Signature S2, Paradigm UltraCube 10" Sub, Denon AVR-3808CI, Toshiba HD-A2 HD DVD Player, XBOX 360, PS3 120GB aka BD Player, Wii, Harmony One Remote, WD TV Live

Jul 30, 2009, 12:59 AM	#7
phial The descent of electrons. Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 14,894	lol, nice setup. "Give us gifts!!" . Then again most traditions seem silly to me. Sorry, back on topic. __________________ There are no things, only processes.

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