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minaelromany Jul 2, 2004 04:25 AM

How to make a girl love you ?
 
Hi guys,

I have a small problem .
I have been in love with a girl for almost two years now , I was seeing her in a small computer store here in my small town , I haven't talked to her much , but I know alot of things about her that made me more and more attracted to her , for all that time I haven't had the guts to tell her , then she was engaged to another guy that she loved , of course my heart was broken as this is the first time I ever fall in love , although I am 27 years old :hmm:
Anyway I've heard that she broke with that guy , but she still loves him somehow , her heart was broken too , I took that chance and sent with a friend telling her my feelings , she didn't say yes or no , but I sent her two e-mails telling her about my feelings , and as I think they were great , God knows that I meant every word in them , the problem is that , her replies didn't satisfy me , and I think that she needs some more time , but even then , I don't know if she is gonna accept my love or not .
I am kindda shy in these matters and not experienced , what do you guys think I should do to make her forget her past love and love me ?
It is a matter of life or death for me .

Skynet Jul 2, 2004 04:30 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
You need to make friends with her first. You can't expect her to just love you back for no other reason than because you are in love with her. Talk to her, do things together, get to know her!

Give her the security and peace of knowing you are around and that you care, and will be there for her. There is no better way to win a girl.

Mr_Skinny Jul 2, 2004 04:34 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
You can't make someone love you. Just be yourself and she'll either love you, or not.

bounty_hunter Jul 2, 2004 05:23 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Skynet
You need to make friends with her first. You can't expect her to just love you back for no other reason than because you are in love with her. Talk to her, do things together, get to know her!

Give her the security and peace of knowing you are around and that you care, and will be there for her. There is no better way to win a girl.


Man i just watched big fish and I wish it happened the way it did in that movie.

I hate life, i wish my life was more like a movie :(

Kombatant Jul 2, 2004 05:31 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
Umm, how about some personal contact first? Like go talk to her, invite her out, stuff like that? I mean, sorry if i sound blunt or anything, but how do you expect to approach a girl when a) you send someone else to do the talking b) you continue NOT talking to her in person by sending emails?

If you are really in love with her, trust me; go talk to her. That's what she would want; you are not making a very good impression by "avoiding" her. Simple as that. Even if she turns you down (which i sincerely NOT hope so), you will know that you tried and you will have a piece of mind. Living with a big "what if" in your head is not the best of things, especially since you fall in love for the first time.

ReDeeMeR_RR Jul 2, 2004 05:31 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
lol it was an interesting movie indeed.

Caleb Jul 2, 2004 06:12 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by ReDeeMeR_RR
lol it was an interesting movie indeed.

LOL Your avatar is suspiciously accurately in sync with the music I am listening to ATM. Rammstein - Spiel mit mir.


On topic:

Your chances are much better if you talk to her in person. The phone, SMS messages, IM and e-mail are womens territories. They know exactly what to write or say to make you wonder, and to be vague enough for you never to get any closer to the truth. In person however it is much easier to get a feel of the situation between you. Just keep your eyes and ears open when you talk to her. :P

Lunar Aura Jul 2, 2004 06:43 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
Write her a poem. Chicks dig that.

highpingdrifter Jul 2, 2004 06:59 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
never get a girl/lady on the rebound, it will end in tears .
first you need to be her friend, and i dont mean hitting on her, let her know you care and let her know you will be there for her and stop the e-mail crap and go make contact and finally no it is not a matter of life or death.
just for that statement if i could i would give you a kick in the asp. :mad:

PS she will never forget past loves, people dont just turn off, i think you need to deal with the fact that she loved someone else before you get yourself involved.

patNsponge Jul 2, 2004 07:17 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
i agree, while hiding behind an email is easier, you have to talk to her first. Email shouldn't be used for first contact.

fjrp Jul 2, 2004 07:18 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
Like everybody said, talk to her, be her friend, but most important, just be yourself. Oh and when you do get to talk to her, don't mention the other guy, she might end up thinking about him instead of you. Good luck!;)

BigPapa Jul 2, 2004 07:24 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
Just walk up to her or call her on the phone and say :

y helo thar buttsekz? LOLOL


That gets to the chicks every time :drool:



Also, on a more serious note, don't insist too much on the "madly in love with her" part. She might get scared because even if she likes you she'll think her feelings don't match yours, and she'll be afraid that once she accepts to see you, there'll be no way out because you're so all over her. Just act as if you like her a fair deal, but nothing more.

ScretHate Jul 2, 2004 07:25 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
Girl's are attracted to men. Be a man: be strong, confident, and proud. Hiding away shyly will you get you nowhere and nothing but shame and anger. And most importantly, do NOT be her friend. Make her know from the start your intentions to become her mate.

Tork64 Jul 2, 2004 08:03 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
Dont care, dont call her a lot, dont send her messages, make it look like she never existed, yeah i know its hard but ive gone through this a lot where I cared too much and sent letters and stuff and it almost always went bad, but once i started not to care the ball was on my side. Im not saying to be a total jerk, just dont be weak, half the time be nice and the other half dont be. Never, I repeat NEVER give her the advantage, dont be too nice to her. If shes not interested, f it, its not worth your time.

ReDeeMeR_RR Jul 2, 2004 08:07 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
I liek how you called that a small problem, hell if I was really in love with someone and she wasnt aware that'd be full blow apocalypse for me.

Shorty Jul 2, 2004 08:08 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
from what you have just told me, it sounds like you should turn yourself into the policem, :ahem: stalker :p

movieman Jul 2, 2004 08:41 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
Quote:

ive gone through this a lot where I cared too much and sent letters and stuff and it almost always went bad, but once i started not to care the ball was on my side.
Sad, but true: in my experience women are always more interested in guys who aren't devoted to them, and lose interest if you are. If they think they might lose you, they work a lot harder to keep you... that's probably why I've had the same girlfriend for five years now :).

pink_pants Jul 2, 2004 09:03 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
How can you love her when you barely know her??

ATMArage Jul 2, 2004 09:06 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
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Originally Posted by Mr_Skinny
You can't make someone love you. Just be yourself and she'll either love you, or not.

Bingo.

Stingray Jul 2, 2004 09:10 AM

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Originally Posted by ATMArage
Bingo.

Seconded bingo.

Shadowless Jul 2, 2004 09:11 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
gather up sum balls and talk to her and get to know her better and become friends n such

Ady Jul 2, 2004 09:18 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
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Originally Posted by Stingray
Seconded bingo.


Tringo.

Be yourself, you can't make her do anything, even if you could you really wouldn't want it that way in the long run.

pink_pants Jul 2, 2004 09:27 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
You guys are all crazy. Speaking from a female perspective, if some guy I didn't even really know started sending me emails telling me he was in love with me... all of the "being himself" wouldn't help a damn bit because I'd already think he was insane.

Kombatant Jul 2, 2004 09:45 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
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Originally Posted by pink_pants
You guys are all crazy. Speaking from a female perspective, if some guy I didn't even really know started sending me emails telling me he was in love with me... all of the "being himself" wouldn't help a damn bit because I'd already think he was insane.

Quoted for truth. As I said, go talk to her, let her know who you are. You are not making a very good impression that way, trust me on this.

badboy Jul 2, 2004 10:16 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
Biggest mistake you can do is tell her that you love her in the start...
Then you have like 90% less chance of ever getting her...

Womans minds are a mystery :nuts:

pink_pants Jul 2, 2004 10:24 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
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Originally Posted by badboy
Biggest mistake you can do is tell her that you love her in the start...
Then you have like 90% less chance of ever getting her...

Womans minds are a mystery :nuts:

That isn't much of a mystery. If someone says they love you in the beginning of a relationship or when they barely know anything about you, it is obvious that they don't know what love is. Why get caught up in the drama of dealing with someone who doesn't know what they're feeling?

carramrod01 Jul 2, 2004 10:27 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
Calm down man it's not a matter of life or death. As you said, you barely even know her so how can you love her so much? :nuts: Plus you can't make her love you. Just be yourself and if she doesn't like you move on.

TIKtak Jul 2, 2004 10:30 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
once you become her friend, you are gonna have to maintain that friendship by keeping interested in being with you. one way to do that is to talk about stuff that girls like or stuff that she likes. always put attention on her. dont put all the attention on yourself

badboy Jul 2, 2004 11:00 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
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Originally Posted by pink_pants
That isn't much of a mystery. If someone says they love you in the beginning of a relationship or when they barely know anything about you, it is obvious that they don't know what love is. Why get caught up in the drama of dealing with someone who doesn't know what they're feeling?

Say to a guy how much you love him and see what he does ;)
Ill bet he wouldnt shove you off :p

A woman just says "meh" and then thinks "why should I even bother with this guy he likes me already, no fun" :bleh:

Ive seen it dozen of times, the minut they start to like a girl to soon, the girl shoves em off. And my friends that dont give a **** about their girl that girls just keeps coming back for more, and when they break up with her, she comes begging and is his slave.

pink_pants Jul 2, 2004 11:03 AM

Re: How to make a girl love you ?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by badboy
Say to a guy how much you love him and see what he does ;)
Ill bet he wouldnt shove you off :p

I woman just says "meh" and then thinks "why should I even bother with this guy he like me already, no fun" :bleh:

Ive seen it dozen of times, the minut they start to like a girl to soon, the girl shoves em off. And my friends that dont give a **** about their girl that girls just keeps coming back for more, and when they breaks up she comes begging and is his slave.

:lol: I'd say men react much worse than women when "I love you" is brought up too soon.


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